Whether you’re newly-weds looking for spectacular fireworks in beginning of your marriage or a two-decade old couple who has somehow lost some of the spark, rekindling the fire in your sex life is an essential part in your loving relationship. For some couples, the flame stays even after numerous years, but for others, the flame dies little by little in each anniversary.
However, hope is not lost. Regardless of where you are in your relationship right now, there are simple things that you can do in bringing that spark back.
• Take a trip and leave the kids behind. A trip away from home, whether it’s a nearby hotel or across the Atlantic Ocean will surely bring you much closer together. You may have lost your sexual desire after having five kids, making sure to bring food to the table and basically just being parents and provider. Your attention shifts from your partner to the family. This is not so bad, but sometimes you need to make your partner feel wanted by giving him/her undivided attention. And the best way to do this is to get away from the domestic chaos for a night or two, a week or month if you can afford it.
The trip will remove the constant distractions from your life. Right now, you don’t have to worry about the kids, the dishes and your work. At this moment, you only have your partner to bond with, glorify and worship. This emotional contact will become even more evident in your lovemaking.
• Kiss and cuddle constantly. Kissing and hugging are two great ways to show love and appreciation, and if you happen to miss getting and receiving them constantly, that might translate to feelings of undesirability. Nothing hurts more than feeling undesirable in front of your partner. Make it a habit to kiss before you leave home no matter how rushed you are in the morning. And then kiss again when you get home. The longer, the better. Cuddle while watching TV or reading a book. Even if you are not literally talking, your bodies are making physical contact that shows your desire for your partner. Kissing and cuddling are also two of the best preludes for a great sex later on.
• Groom up for yourself and your partner. If you feel like you look drab, old and ugly, it will show. And your partner is usually the first one to pick up on that vibe. It’s understandable that you might be too busy fulfilling your responsibilities for the family, but you don’t have to look like it if you can put in some effort.
Getting a new haircut or hair color may make you feel good. Perhaps you could squeeze in a trip to the spa while waiting for your third-grader to get out of school. Shop for new clothes, make up and scents if you can. Don’t forget to buy some sexy lingerie too.
You can see more of this article in our March 2015 issue of ModelsMania